Why do people prefer to talk to total strangers on line than the people physically around them?

Author: Yeniden


A million things to say, a sleepy mind, a broken back and suddenly I found myself at home, doing nothing else but thinking of my life, my choices, the people I consider my own, my friends, family, ex boyfriends... people who have touched my life in a good or bad way...

I always had the need to write. Good or bad, it doesn't matter. I just have the need to put my thoughts and emotions on paper- or something like that... For years I was writing down everything, but never showed anyone anything. I really hate to be criticized, not for the quality of my writing, but the quality of my thoughts and emotions.

For the past two years that I have been talking to people around the earth, I realised that writing is my thing, what makes me feel good, what eases my feelings towards the world... After going through a minor sickness, I thought of my priorities and my dreams. What I need and what it is that I want. Writing was on top of my list. I never tried to show anyone what my efforts on that, probably because I know the people around me, better than they think.

Nine months ago, I met someone on line, with whom I developed a strange relation. Nothing romantic or any of that kind, I consider him to be my brother, as he thinks of me as his sister. With his encouragement I started this blog, one step closer to what I wanted. He liked the way I was writing to him through my emails, he could get the feeling I wanted him to get. Simple as that. One day, he popped the idea of putting my thought out publicly, he even insisted when I refused, till finally he convinced me. Since then, I even tried my luck with articles and it's a slow process as I am a beginner, but it goes surprisingly better than I thought.

While I was waiting for my first article to be published or not-which it did- I decided it was time to tell my best friends about it. I didn't expect much from them, let's face it if I did expect a warm reaction I would have told them sooner, but what I got was by far the most lousy thing to do to someone you claim you care about. Absolutely no support, no feeling about it rather I was asked why do I try to do stuff like that? Why do I have the need to try and be something else from what I am. I have to note here, that this was the reaction of one of them and that she has never read anything I wrote, even though I gave her one piece. The rest of my friends where a bit warmer, but still haven't read a single thing, or even if they have they never told me what they thought. I do know though, that what I gave them to read has been published. So it must have been a bit good, at least up to a level.

When the people around you doom you with their reactions, or with the lack of interest about your needs or tries, why wouldn't you talk to total strangers about the things that bother you?

When you meet no support from your real life friends, why wouldn't you turn to people you have never met, yet they are nicer and more thoughtful?

I am not saying that this type of relations always last or that if you were actually neighbours things would be the same, but even if the person behind the emails is not who you really think, don't you get something in return? The strength to follow your dreams, the hope that there are people caring about you?

Anyone can give you an advice on something, but the ones who know you the best are supposed to help you grab on, so that you don't fall. Unfortunately, today most people try to be the ones who will throw you over the cliff. When did our life get so meaningless that ones doom is the reason to be happy?

Not everyone has huge dreams about their lives, but is it really a protective reaction not to let your friends fly to the sky? No risk, no gain. No gain, no pain. Life is too short to spend it fearing your own shadow. But you need people to hold you both when you fly and when you crash. I treasure the most the ones who hold my hand dearly when I dream. And the people who have done that are people I met on line. Maybe I will never actually meet them, maybe after a year things won't be the same between us, but they are the ones really listening and really allowing me to lean on them when I need it the most.

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Mindset to Become and Inspire Other People, To Stop Being Fake and Be Their Real Authentic Person

By: Simon

You probably say you hate what is fake, and you tell people about that whenever you can. But are you faking that dislike -- meaning you do nothing in life to avoid being inauthentic yourself -- or do you live authenticity? When you look around, what do you look around for? I do not think that it is possible to value authenticity without valuing it as the highest thing in the world, so that would be a good thing to measure - if, when you are with people or in any other situation, you notice petty bullshit things and get worked up over THEM, as opposed to notice the behaviors that people have that destroy their own and those around's lives by them being inauthentic, then you truly are not living authenticity. I can say that much.

I said that you cannot care about authenticity without having it as the most important value of all, and I actually mean that. But it does in fact encapsulate a few oither very important values in itself. It is honesty, right - so honesty with your own, and other people's, potential is part of it. When you are real, you realize that there is love between all people - so unconditional love is in there as well.

By the way... if you started reading this text without caring at all about authenticity, I understand you. All it takes for you to more or less HAVE to have that mindset is to watch tv all day without thinking critically. Nothing on tv says that you will have the most awesome, deep and profound feelings of happiness when you are interacting on an authentic level with people - so you have not experienced that for a while or so -- or, maybe you have, but since you are being drowned in ads that, on the surface, says bullshit wins your focus is on the bullshit as opposed to the authenticity. Am I making sense?

In the title I did mention that you should spot everything fake around you, and that is your little mission for the upcoming weeks -- if you have a habit of watching tv all the time, fine, but do concentrate on what you see in the people's eyes on TV that is real - because you will find it. Learn to disregard what is fake. By doing this you will see that, however fake people appear at the surface, their eyes always tells the truth anyway, and you will learn to disregard the fake and look for the real in people - something you can use on people around you to bring out what is real in them!

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